five years ago, in july 2005, my biological father died. he wasn’t the dad that raised me (the one i think of when i say the word daddy), but he was my father and i loved him with my whole heart. we had reconnected and forged a relationship from the time i was about 20, and what we had was something special. his passing was very sudden (having kicked cancer and shed some other big demons a few years earlier, i think we just assumed he was through the worst of it), and he was young: only 49.
if there’s one little regret i have in life, one “i wish i’d done that differently” line item, it’s this: he died before i took the time to tell him i was pregnant. oh yes, it was early in the process (we were waiting until after the first tri-mester to make official announcements), and i was very busy rehearsing/performing in The Sound of Music… but i just wish he’d known.
so… we’re not waiting this time. we’re not keeping it under wraps or worrying about the “what-if” factor of sharing so soon. we’re celebrating and being hopeful and excited (if kind of morning-sick-y and dizzy) and letting our friends and loved ones celebrate with us.
we let emma announce it here, but i’ll go ahead and spell it out: as of today, i’m eight weeks + five days pregnant.
last time i was gestating, we called the little person-in-utero “The Baby Bumble” (since bear calls me “bee”…get it?!). this time we’re using the code-name “Cubby” (since i call my husband “bear”…get it?). of course, emma has decided to call it “Beauty”, which is ok, too.
emma got to sit in for our first ultra-sound today, and the look on her face when i said “em…that’s a baby in my belly!” is one i’ll never forget. she’s so excited to be a big sister (she’s been begging for a while), and i think the five year age difference between the two will suit them very well.
thank you all for your kind words and warm thoughts in our direction; i’m so honored to share the news, and i’m completely and truly happy to put it out there and share our joy. xoxo.
[their first picture together: emma next to cubby's ultrasound]
15 comments in “something to tell you”
July 1st, 2010 at 11:29 pm
OH you guys!!!! I’m so excited for you. You are gonna love having two little bumbles (ok, a bumble and a cubby).
Congrats congrats congrats. And Wow. YAY!
Much love.
July 1st, 2010 at 11:43 pm
How exciting! Emma is absolutely darling. She will love being a big sister (I do! Even in my 30s, I adore my “little” sissies and brother so much).
-erin
July 2nd, 2010 at 12:26 am
Congratulations!!! I can attest to the 5 year age difference being awesome because I am 4 years and 10 months older than my brother, Jason (12 years and 2 days older than my other brother, Benny). My mom is big on age gaps : ). Love looking at your pictures as always!
~ Rebecca B.
July 2nd, 2010 at 1:49 am
I know that I told you already, but congratulations, hon! This is such wonderful, exciting news.
July 2nd, 2010 at 8:32 am
OMG–I started to read this post and thought it would make me cry as it just doesn’t seem like 5 years and I miss my brother Beav so much and then this wonderful surprise. I am so excited for you all. Emma did a wonderful job announcing the news. The age gap will be nice; there is 7 years between Nick and Lilly and only 23 months between Lilly and Abby. Much harder when they are close. Take care of yourself and little “cubby”. Congratulations!!!!!! Love ya~ Aunt Lori (I’m hoping for a boy)
July 2nd, 2010 at 9:31 am
I have said it once and I’ll say it again.. CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
that is such awesome news and I’m so happy for you and your family.!
July 2nd, 2010 at 1:18 pm
So exciting. Congratulations from here in the UK:)
July 2nd, 2010 at 8:36 pm
Congratulations – It’s gonna be great to add a new little neice or nephew to the family!!
July 3rd, 2010 at 5:19 pm
HIIIIII
Congratulations Melissa!!! I’m sure Emma is going to be a great big sis!!!!
Maybe you could name it Emma 2 or Concentrate!!
Love, Gabrielle.
July 3rd, 2010 at 5:23 pm
PS send Emma my love
July 3rd, 2010 at 5:24 pm
And Eric too
July 3rd, 2010 at 8:51 pm
This whole post and those pictures of Emma and the ultrasound made me tear up a little bit. I’m so excited for you guys!!!
July 5th, 2010 at 10:36 am
YAY!!!!! Jose family! Congratulations! Fantastic news lovelies! Kevin and I will be very excited for our next trip to NYC to meet the new addition!
xoxo
July 10th, 2010 at 9:13 am
WOW Congratulations!!! xo
July 20th, 2010 at 4:15 pm
Congratulations!! What amazing news and what a great way to announce it!
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